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Time Magazine recently posted an opinion piece by Sierra Mannie, a senior at the University of Mississippi, titled “Dear White Gays: Stop Stealing Black Female Culture.” 

And this is how I initially felt after reading the title, because I knew exactly where Mannie was going.

You see, not too long ago, a gay white man told me that he loves to channel is inner “black woman”, and when I told him, I didn’t take that as a compliment, he followed it with a “bitch, please”.  If there was ever a time I wanted to inflict bodily harm and not face the repercussions of becoming “Orange Is The New Black”, that was definitely one of those times.

I don’t know when this phenomenon started, but it seems as though sassy gay men, just love them some sassy, eye rolling black women.

Here’s what Mannie had to say:

I need some of you to cut it the hell out. Maybe, for some of you, it’s a presumed mutual appreciation for Beyoncé and weaves that has you thinking that I’m going to be amused by you approaching me in your best “Shanequa from around the way” voice. I don’t know. What I do know is that I don’t care how well you can quote Madea, who told you that your booty was getting bigger than hers, how cute you think it is to call yourself a strong black woman, who taught you to twerk, how funny you think it is to call yourself Quita or Keisha or for which black male you’ve been bottoming — you are not a black woman, and you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood. It is not yours. It is not for you.

I’ve always wondered if gay white men only wanted to channel their “inner black woman” when they want to do something they perceive as being ‘ghetto’.  Is it like a light switch, that goes off and one? When they want to be respected, do they channel their “straight inner white man or woman”?  Or, how about their “inner Asian woman”?  When they head to out for dinner at the new tapas restaurant, do they channel their “inner Rosie Perez”?

I’m quite sure they don’t.

Like Mannie, I’m all for equal rights for everyone. But don’t take that as meaning I want you to appropriate what you think is black woman culture, or think that I’ll take it as some for of flattery. Because at the end of the day, I can’t channel my “inner privileged white male” whether straight or gay.

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  • Cumberbatchfan

    I don’t mind gay black men doin it evade they’re usually imitatin their black mothers aunts and each other anyway,so it’s all good. Gay white men? Um,you can miss me with all that. You get the benefit of using black woman and black gay lingo and mannerisms and none of the backlash. Gtfo

  • Eduardo

    From what I’ve read so far in the article and comments, that behavior can be summed up as “passive-aggressive”. Don’t be surprised if there are gay men who’ll be (or pretend to be) offended by this article (while still mocking you). Criticizing the fashion industry might not be a politically correct thing to do in this day and age.

  • Phoenix Ares

    I wonder if she’s this upset about cross-dressing black men who “act like black women” while she’s at it. If she’s gonna go in about white gays then she needs to go in all the way with the black ones, and any others that might be on board with acting like us. Because now you got black transgender used-to-be men-women (or whatever you call them) “representing” us. Live your life as you choose, is what I believe. But if you were born a dude you will never represent me as a female, let alone a black woman. You will not ever have the struggles I have and had. So screw you. I don’t care what you think you should be. Nothing irritates me like a feminine man (or a masculine one) lecturing me on how to be a female, or coming at me with “sista” talk…or “girl talk” period. I don’t find it cute when straight men come at me “acting like black women” because THEY think it’s cute. I have enough negative images hurled at me without them mocking it in my face. So no I can’t stand it when a gay dude, white or black, comes at me in that fashion like he’s in the same league as me. I’ve only had a handful of these encounters which I shut it down before they got started and yes it veered into the homophobe accusation.

    If you say so, so be it.