Though open marriages are becoming a bit more commonplace, most people still frown upon this type of union. When it comes to her open marriage though, Mo’Nique thinks the criticism she and her husband Sidney receive has little to do with people’s respect for the traditional sanctity of marriage and far more to do with society’s perception of her attractiveness.
In the couple’s very first episode of their podcast, “Open Relationship,” Mo’Nique discussed the backlash she’s received since admitting she and Sidney have an open marriage and what she thinks the hate stems from.
“No one knew it wasn’t Sidney’s idea to have an open marriage. It was mine. I want to say that again. It was not Sidney’s idea to have an open marriage; it was mine.
“When you pull it up, and you [look] up celebrities in open marriage and you see Will and Jada, whoever the person is the author of that article they say well we can understand why they would be in a open marriage they’re both beautiful people. When they start talking about Brad and Angelina, they said, ‘Well we can understand—they’re both beautiful people. The moment it got to my damn picture with my husband they said, ‘Oh, we hope Mo’Nique not gon’ let him just use her like that,’ because society looks at me and they see a woman that looks like [she] couldn’t possibly have a man that looks like that if there was not something else involved in it…she’s gonna let this man do anything he wants to do because she’s famous and she has money and now she can have whatever she wants, but she’s gonna let the man use her and abuse her.”
Mo’Nique may have a point, though she doesn’t seem to realize people have the most to say about her open marriage because she has the most to say about it. The rumors about Will and Jada’s open marriage — and their comment about it — have come and gone and Brad and Angelina have yet to fess up to having this type of agreement as far as I’ve seen. But it’s only Mo’Nique who continues to explain and defend what’s really no one else’s business besides she and her husband’s and the outside people they sleep with.
Still, I wouldn’t totally dismiss her claim about people’s perception of why she and Sidney’s marriage is open. Instead of considering Mo’Nique is the one who wants options, many people assume she went along with this arrangement to appease a man who couldn’t possibly stay faithful to her. Part of that assumption may have to do with preconceived notions about women and our romantic and sexual desires, but I wouldn’t be surprised if a great deal of the backlash was rooted in the belief Mo’Nique had to agree to this type of marriage in order to keep Sidney because she doesn’t fit the traditional mold of beauty. That, of course, isn’t fair but that’s also the sort of thing that happens when you invite everyone into your bed — physically and metaphorically.
Why do you think Mo’Nique’s gotten so much backlash for her open marriage?