Khloe Kardashian, a member of the family who wrote the book on doing things for the sake of a headline, had the nerve to accuse Ciara and Russell Wilson of openly discussing their celibacy to get attention. This, during en episode of Kocktails with Khloe in which she talked about her own mother’s sex life and shared nearly every public place she’s had intercourse on national TV with her show’s guests which included Cassie and Vivica A. Fox.
When the topic of celebrity celibacy arose, Khloe brought up Ciara and Russell, who have shared their vow of celibacy with the media since going public, saying:
“They should be having sex. With all due respect to Ciara she has a baby, its not like we don’t know if she is a virgin or not, we know. None of us would know about it unless they were publicly telling us they are practicing celibacy, so who are you trying to prove this to? Is it a look?”
As much as I want to go on for days about everything Khloe and her family tell us about themselves that no one cares or needs to know, the tallest member of the K klan is really representative of the greater masses who, for some reason, find themselves offended by other people’s decision not to engage in sex. And, personally, I can’t understand why.
If the argument is that sex is and should be a very personal thing, then I somewhat understand questioning others’ need to tell the world they aren’t doing it because, really, that’s no one’s business. But what you can’t do is be one of those people who feels the need to tell everyone how you get down in the bedroom and feel a type of way when others proclaim they’re not doing anything. Your sexual activity isn’t anyone’s business either and when you shun other people for choosing not to engage, it gives off the impression that you’re not quite as comfortable with your overt sexuality as you let on.
Who is Khloe Kardashian to say Ciara and Russell should be having sex; or, further, to assume celibacy is about portraying an image of innocence? While it’s true neither star has anything to prove to the public, given Ciara’s history of relationships seemingly more based in lust rather than love and Russell’s devout Christianity, it’s understandable they’d want to share their somewhat unconventional choice. And, after all, what is there to be ashamed of? If journalists can ask celebs their favorite sex positions and plaster those answers on the cover of magazines, surely a man and a woman saying they’re getting to know each other outside of the bedroom can’t be more offensive.
Never have Ciara and Russell encouraged others to follow in their footsteps and yet people often find their decision to be a personal affront to their choice to be sexually active. Just as having sex in a limo or public bathroom and whatever other location Khloe overshared is her doing what’s best for her, Ciara and Russell are doing what’s best for them and they have every right to talk about it.
When I overhear reactions like that of Khloe in real life, I liken it to people trying to force someone who says they don’t drink to take shots with them all night. It’s as though people are only comfortable engaging in so-called debauchery if everyone around them is; otherwise they start to second-guess their choice and then push that feeling off on other people, accusing them of being judgmental when they’re really judging themselves. If anyone’s trying to prove anything it’s those offended by the non-sexually active, not the other way around.